Last month, I had the privilege of hearing Dr. Ashley Smith speak at the Mental Health KC Conference. Her message about authentic connection really stayed with me — especially in today’s world.
We live in a time where we are more connected than ever. Social media, texts, and video calls make it easy to stay connected and reach out to friends and family, no matter where they are. Yet, despite this digital closeness, many of us feel lonelier than ever before.
Why is that?
Dr. Smith reminded us that social media isn’t a replacement for authentic connection. Likes and comments don’t carry the same weight as a deep conversation with a friend. One where you can be yourself and be vulnerable.
When was the last time you had a real conversation with someone online?
A conversation where you went below the surface, to talk about the good, the bad, and the ugly? Those types of conversations are much easier and more gratifying to have in person or over a phone call, where you can be present with the other person. Authentic connection is about recognizing each other’s humanity and listening to understand, not to respond.
We’re living in a time where many things feel uncertain, and that is contributing to rising levels of anxiety and depression. One way to combat that is through authentic connection. Authentic connection means slowing down and making time to be with someone — not just physically, but emotionally. Having real, authentic interactions with those close to us help to keep us grounded and provide us with a sense of emotional safety. They can serve as a buffer against the stress and worry that so many of us are feeling right now. It doesn’t matter if it’s a phone call, a front porch chat or a deep dive conversation with a close friend. These types of interactions can replenish us.
This month, be brave and seek out at least one opportunity for authentic connection. Start small if that feels more comfortable for you. But do something.